The Dating Evolution


Hit it and Quit it!

“Hit it and Quit it!” It’s one of the dating cries of Generation Z– (also known as iGeneration or iGen and Post-Millennials) the people born between 2000 and present.
Having gotten this far into this newsletter means you have put forth much more effort into reading this than many people these days put into wooing their latest sexual partner.

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Are You Analyzing Me?

I’ve been asked this many times as I’ve been dating. It’s an understandable question once people know that I am a psychotherapist. That is in essence what I do for a living. I analyze people.  I’ve learned to respond with “Yes! And I hope you’re doing the same thing too!”

But they’re not.

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The Dating Rap…

Dating is broken
And I ain’t jokin’

You need more than a pretty profile
To make me smile

What’s in your heart and are you smart
Matter way more to me before I even start

Can you speak the truth
Can you own the wrongs of your youth

Sex is easy, baby
If that’s enough for you then maybe

No, for sure I know
You’re not the one to be my beau

Communication means way more than talk
If this is foreign to you, then you may walk

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Euphoria Dysphoria – Who said this was an acceptable way to date? And why aren’t more people alarmed by this?

“Y’all need to walk into this party tonight like your pussies cost $1 million!”

“You just need to catch a dick and forget about all of your troubles.”

Say what?!

Two phrases of dialogue I paused to write down in the pilot episode of Euphoria starring the young star, Zendaya.

I would have never watched this show or known what all the fuss was about if a high school client of mine hadn’t mentioned it more than once in a casual way. Her mother asked me to watch it to weigh in on it. She mentioned her daughter had already watched the full first season. And she was pumped to see the second season.

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“I’m not going to wait 90 days to have sex to only find out they’re bad in bed!”
This person is revealing their mindset about relationships– sex is the ultimate achievement in a relationship. The best part. The main reason for the relationship. The whole point. The key to true power. If the first sex is bad, it’s over.

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